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#MakeMeHateYouInOnePhrase (Alternative Title: To All The Complainers)

Nope, can’t do it – it takes too many words.  How about a 1000 words-plus article?

This is not directed at any one person.  I’m not targeting anyone based on political affiliation/preference.  I’m directing this at everyone who feels that complaining rapid fire on Facebook is a perfectly acceptable way to win people over.

I’ve vowed to only share funny/positive things on my Facebook page, as there is just a deluge of hate language and hate posting showing up all over Facebook.  Consider the following to be my own personal crusade to show people that what they’re fighting for is not worth losing out on happiness and fulfillment.

If there has been one trend that has aggravated me more than anything since the summer, it has been the people on Facebook who feel the need to rapid-fire post multiple statuses stating your opinion.  Now, while I understand you have the right to say whatever you want (it’s your First Amendment Right, just as it is mine to write this blog post), sit back for a minute, remove your fingers from the keyboard, and just read what someone who has seen your posts has to say.

No really, it’s ok.  Your keyboard won’t wither and die without you typing on it.  Neither will your phone.  It’s ok, just back away.

Your posts drive me nuts.  They clog my newsfeed.  On debate nights, they’re worse.  Anything positive that I could possibly redeem from being on Facebook on the night of a debate (or any day, for that matter) is shattered by 10 posts in 10 minutes.  Again, it is your right, but let me tell you about why I personally won’t do what you are doing.

Facebook Memories: Have you noticed that you can look back on things you’ve shared on this day in previous years?  Has there ever been something you’ve said that you’re embarrassed about?  I know I’ve seen a few things (and don’t try to tell me, “But Allison, I’m perfect!” or “Allison, I’m not embarrassed by anything I’ve ever said on Facebook!”), and trust me, I scroll past very quickly.  Now, think about everything you’ve said this year.  Think back to the dates between this summer and Election Day.  Think back to debate nights.  Do you realize how mean you sound?  Do you realize that not everyone wants to see what you’ve said?  Do you realize that even though you’re proud of what you said and that you’re exercising your rights to say this (as I am right now), you may come off as a whiner?  If you can answer any of these questions with “yes,” then you need to step back and re-evaluate. If you don’t want to see it a year from now and cringe, avoid saying it now.

For me, seeing posts about how I had a great time with my ex-boyfriend (when I’m dating a much better guy now) are cringe-worthy, so spouting off stuff that will only aggravate others is just something I’m not in the business of doing anymore.

The Hear of the Moment…Can Make You Look Like An Ass: Posting a response to something while upset or angry can leave your thoughts sounding half-assed and jumbled.  The most well-composed writers and thinkers among us are not immune to what can happen in the heat of the moment.  I’ve learned to not just write some of my posts in an hour and throw them up on the interwebs for the world to see – I double check what I’ve written.  I never want to come off sounding like the very people who are making me crazy.

And if I absolutely just don’t think I could publish something confidently, I delete it or file it away so only I see it.  I’d rather be able to delete something knowing no one else has seen it, rather than get chastised by the critical masses before I give up and delete something.

I’ve noticed throughout Facebook that everything become a political argument (for a silly example, when someone was only talking about cheese – I mean, come on, cheese!), the amount of profanities thrown throughout, and (for an even sillier example) you were being told to have a nice day.

Do you see how silly that sounds?  That’s how many of these arguments are starting – you don’t like Donald Trump, but all of a sudden, you’re a Parmesan hater.  You think Hillary is a crook, and who cares if your friend told you to have a great day, your friend had it coming.  This is the atmosphere of hostility we are currently in.  People who otherwise would not be so touchy about everything are getting touchy because of politicians and cheese types.

A friend recently said it best – he was going to unfriend people who get all political and negative all over their Facebook timelines constantly.  He said he didn’t care what political party someone affiliates themselves with.  I like the way he thinks.  I just keep my opinions to myself.

I’m sure when Facebook was becoming a thing, being a political battleground wasn’t the intention for it.  Mixed in with all the cute puppy and kitten photos are pictures of severed heads and “(Insert Candidate Here) does this for fun!  Would you vote for someone who does this?!”

I’d blame the current political culture for everything our society is becoming recently, but we’ve always been a bullying society.

Rather than channeling all of the negative energy we can into bullying others, telling people we are no longer friends because of who we are voting for, and posting half-truths and arguments all over Facebook, I’ll propose this:

  1. For every three negativities you post, try posting something positive.  It balances out how negative you sound to others, and gives us some hope that people aren’t just completely built of hate and negativeness.
  2. Stop live statusing the debates.  Pick out a few main points, rather than a blow-by-blow account.  I write recaps for fun on occasion, but I use my blog for that purpose.  Start a word document, type of everything you take away from watching a debate, and then share it with others.  That way, there aren’t 5000 heat of the moment-type posts.  If you can’t find anything among your notes, then it probably wasn’t worth sharing anyway.
  3. Stop yelling at people because of who they support. They’re not going to change their mind because of your name-calling.  They’re  only going to distance themselves from you for your actions.  It is not worth arguing and losing friendships because you don’t agree on one thing.  But if you must, and believe that someone who disagrees with you on one thing is not worth the 1000 commonalities you share, then you’re obviously not much of a friend to those you alienate.

Oh, and as far as the one phrase goes…I’m a Republican.  Go on and hate me.

In fact, if this offends you enough, if nothing you read prior to that one statement offends you more than political affiliation, you can unfollow me.

Now, if you even thought that was a good idea, do you once again see how silly you’re being?  Stop complaining, it isn’t worth it!

 

Author:

Writer, former dancer, geek, nostalgia geek, Secretary by day, daughter, sister/in-law, girlfriend, aunt. Yankees and Giants fan, honorary Avenger (I have a pin, so it is official :-) ), MSTie, and Stargate, Thor, and Hello Kitty collector. And if you want to know anything about me: https://allisonveneziowrites.com/about-allison

2 thoughts on “#MakeMeHateYouInOnePhrase (Alternative Title: To All The Complainers)

  1. I’m not fond of using Facebook and spend very little time on that platform. One small thing I’ve learned is that it’s possible to block offensive posts without unfriending an actual friend. 😉 xoM

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    1. I usually just ignore and scroll on…but I saw this hashtag and couldn’t ignore the idea of acting on it! I like using my Facebook page as a force for positive, so I mostly just share funny, geeky, and positive stuff, and also share my blog posts. 🙂

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